Finding out you are pregnant can be very stressful as there is a mix of emotions especially if it is not wanted. Even though, you might feel terrified you have to know that there is help ready to you. If you are pregnant and you are not ready to be a parent, many people and resources can help you make an informed decision.
The first thing you need to do is to confirm you are pregnant. So make an appointment with a doctor or clinic. Your doctor can confirm that you are pregnant by making you a pregnancy test.
A sonogram can also be performed within the first three months of pregnancy as it is used to check the embryo, confirm the number of embryos, calculate the gestational age and the baby’s due date.[lwptoc]
Even if you don’t want to be pregnant it is key that you and the baby be healthy, so your doctor might recommend:
- Taking prenatal vitamins
- Stop drinking, smoking, and/or doing drugs
- Eat a healthy diet
- Beginning prenatal care
- Stay active
Your doctor is also a great source of information so ask him/her your options. He or she can guide you through and offer additional resources and professionals who can help.
What Choices Do You Have?
To decide what to do about an unexpected pregnancy it is important to get the support you need. If it is possible to try to confide in a close friend, a family member, or the baby’s father. Think about it as you need to make the decision that is right for you.
You have three options:
1. Become a parent. Even if you are a single parent you should know that there are many ways you can raise your baby.
2. Adoption. You can give the baby for adoption and you can be as involved as you want. Open or semi-open adoption allows you to remain an important part of the baby’s life.
3. Abortion. You can stop pregnancy with abortion pills or surgery. The choice will depend on the specific laws where you live, budget, preference, and medical advice.
It is important to understand that deciding what to do when you are pregnant is hard as every decision has different consequences both emotionally and financially.
Talk to someone you trust. Make sure it is someone who won’t force you into making a choice you don’t feel good about it. If you are alone you can always talk to your doctor or find a counselor.
Ultimately, don’t forget that the only person who knows what’s best for you is you.
It is a good idea to do deep research on each option. The more informed you are the easier it will be to decide as you will feel more confident.
If you are thinking of ending the pregnancy it is a good idea to do it as soon as possible. In the United States, abortion is an option, in most states, from somewhere between 4 to 6 weeks until about 24 weeks. Later than 24 weeks can be done just for medical reasons.
Ordinarily, the abortion pill can be taken until the 10th week of pregnancy. For more information consult your doctor or clinic near you.
Think Carefully About Your Options
Before you make a decision it is important to consider the following factors:
- Your current situation. When you are deciding what to do with your pregnancy you need to think about where are you know and where you want to be. Are you willing to delay your plans?
- Costs. Each option has costs involved and you should consider them before making a decision, especially if you do not have good financial stability.
- Your life situation, home environment, and support system.
- How you feel and what type of relationship you want with the baby.
No matter what you decide the truth is that managing an unwanted pregnancy is an emotional and usually painful experience. The best thing you can do is to do what feels right for you and your situation.
Finally, no matter which option you choose, take some time to take care of yourself afterward by talking with a strong support network, social worker or therapist as it is important to handle emotions that emerge.